children

I have three children,,,,they are all grown..or at least they think they are,,,my 18 yr old daughter thinks she is all grown up,,,,,physically maybe....but not mature.........my oldest son is in the army,,married ,his wife is also military.....they just had a son...you'd think that he would call me to tell me,,,,no........I had to find out in other ways........so..he has not talked to me in 6 years,,,he never told me why...well I take that back,,when he was overseas for a year, he claimed that I did not write to him, well I did every week...and while they were gone, I crocheted a big blanket for a belated wedding present... so he did not know that they had arrived back from overseas,,I found out from her mother...and when I got my sons phone number, that is when he yelled at me and told me that I did not write to him.......and I was in tears...and he was yelling...well I thought we had reconciled....no........I told him that Iwas shipping the blanket to him that I had made for them...and he never called me to tell me he got it,,so I called him..he yelled at me again and he told me that he was tired of my drama and hung up on me!...........huh,,,,,,,,,drama???ok........so now that I found out about the baby and want to write to them and go visit...he is now calling me a stalker...mind you..if I had not said anything or had written,, he would be mad at me again,,,,so Iam dammed if I do and dammed if I dont....so what now??I want to send things for the baby,,,but they moved...because I was "stalking" them.... and I do not have a phone number for him,,,so ...........Iam dumb-founded.....